● Playboys love show
Playboys love to make a big show of virtually everything. They spend a lot of money on food, drinks or luxuries especially when there are a lot of women around. They want to be seen as real men, often to the intimidation of their friends or other male colleagues around. In fact most may even borrow money just to make show.
● They always give excuses when it comes to meeting the in-laws
Such men are not interested in getting close to your family since they intend to just play and quit. So you call him today and he says tomorrow, you call tomorrow and he tells you the next day. This is a danger sign. If anything goes wrong, the in-laws will hold him responsible or at least make him feel guilty so he figures that the best thing to do is to keep everything super-secret.
● They put on an angelic appearance
We all know that everyone has a good side and somewhat bad side. If you meet a man who seems to be flawless, be careful. He could have a whole graveyard in his cupboard. Such people put on your opinions as theirs and you will never see any mistakes about them. They appear to be very gentle and agreeable but inside, they are drooling hyenas.
● They are interested in sex
Though their main aim is to enter the ‘queen’s palace’, their behavior may make you think that perhaps they don’t even know there is a palace. ; They will always express how much they love you but lead them close enough to the entrance and you will be amazed at their vivacity. All they want is your heart which is the key to everything.
● They avoid talking about their past or personal history
Most players don’t like talking about real issues. If you ask about their family, home, job or education, you will observe that they are reluctant to answer. That’s because it’s not the object of their mission. They don’t intend to go that far with you. Some have also already planned what to say so in that case they are quick to let go of their thoughts.
● They aim at flattering you
Playboys are also great talkers but all of that is just aimed at flattering. Like I said earlier, your opinion is their opinion. Whatever you wear is nice, whatever you do is good and whatever you say is right. Amazingly, most women are fooled by that. About 90% of players used this strategy. Their main goal is to make you fall flat in love, with ‘cartoonic stars’ around your head.
● They always seem busy
Another key behavior of these players is that they tell you they love you but they are always busy when you call or want to visit. This usually happens at the later part of the relationship. Since you are not the only one in their life, they have to ration the time in order to meet eveyone’s demands. And they hate it when you come unannounced. Surely, you can guess why?
● Sometimes you can feel that they are trying unnecessarily so hard to convince you
Naturally when a man is turned down he goes away for a while or sometimes for a very long time. But a player never gives up. He may even be aware that you are married or engaged or in a relationship but he will still persist. Don’t mistake this to be the strength of his love. It is rather the aggressiveness of his lust.
● Whenever they call, it’s about going to the night club
Players love night clubbing. I am not saying all clubbers are players but most can be found in the night clubs. The irony is that some are excellent gentlemen so it’s difficult to tell whether you met a good guy or a bad guy. If a man persistently invites you to the night club, a hotel, a pub or such similar places, it’s likely he just wants a ‘ride’. ; A good guy always thinks towards the home – he calls and says something like, ‘Hi, I hope you are fine. Are you home this weekend, I want to come visit you?
● They have an attitude of, ‘‘what the heck, I’m paying’’
Perhaps the last alternative that the player resorts to is offering you money. He showers money and gifts here and there and knows you will be mesmerized. In this case if you actually took money regularly and finally opened you legs for him – which you eventually will, don’t go about weeping after he leaves you heartbroken – making it look like all men are cheats. Clearly, it was business. Even some married men go as far as renting rooms to house their girlfriends or rather ‘sex machines’. I once asked a young lady-friend who was dating a much older man, ‘are you sure this man will marry you? To my utmost shock, she replied, ‘who cares about marriage these days’. It means she understood that it was ‘give and take’.
; Gold diggers
● They dress to ‘kill’
The first thing you notice about a gold digger is her incessant desire to impress through dressing. It is a long-standing truth that whores invest in nice clothing and sometimes knowingly expose their private parts. They carry make-up bags everywhere they go and you will see them always busy dressing their faces. Their main target is to drain your pocket.
● They always try to arouse you
A woman’s strongest weapon is perhaps the ability to sexually arouse you. She is aware that once you lose your head, it will be easier for you to let go of your emotions and eventually your money. You must try as much as possible to be disciplined – I‘m speaking from experience.
● They are interested in money
Money is the main aim of the gold digger. I understand this attitude of women is very prevalent in poor countries. For them, relationships or marriage is a whole new ‘market’ that must be explored to the fullest. They are with you because they see golden opportunities not because they really like you.
● They have a way of ‘milking you’ dry
These women obviously have their ways. They touch and caress the cow, saying nice things that make them look like animal lovers but it’s actually the milk they want. Once the cow becomes swollen headed and more relaxed, they quickly bring buckets and start milking, sometimes to the very last drop.
● They are very conceited and pretentious
People with selfish motives are usually conceited. They talk less about themselves and even if they talk more, it’s full of lies. Distortion of truth is inside their blood and they don’t care where falsehood may lead them. Women diggers are like that. That’s why you should be aware of flattery.
● During dinners, they bite more than they can chew
When you go out, observe her. Does she order for more wine, more beer, more food etc when it’s obvious that she cannot take all of what is served? Greed knows no shame. I have told you from the outset, that she is out there to drain you so you should know when things get too much.
● They avoid talking about their past or personal history
Most diggers don’t like talking about real issues. If you ask about their family, home, job or education, you will observe that they are reluctant to answer. That’s because it’s not the object of their mission. They don’t intend to go that far with you. Some women have also already planned what to say so in that case they are quick to let go of their thoughts.
● They are in high spirits only when you give them something
The main motivation of a woman digger is money. Most of them behave as though money is everything. She visits you only when there is a promise of gifts or money. The ‘love’ she shows is always conditional. All over the world, it looks as if unconditional love is gradually becoming a myth.
● They seem busy
Another key behavior of these gold diggers is that they tell you they love you but they are always busy when you call or want to visit. This usually happens at the later part of the relationship. Since you are not the only one in their life, they have to ration the time in order to be able to ‘dig’ every little mine. And they hate it when you come unannounced. Surely, you can guess why?
● They have an attitude of, “I am expensive so you have to pay ’’
Women gold diggers hate it when you try to get intimate at a very early stage of the relationship. She hides her motives under the canopy of chastity or lack of time. Meanwhile other men who have paid up have been given the keys and are busily unzipping both ‘rear and back boots’. They capitalize on your desperation to take the money. Some play their cards carefully over so many years just to get you deeply in love before they will begin to ask you to pay.
It’s possible to meet a man or a woman who may have all or most of these attitudes but it doesn’t mean he or she is player or a digger. He / she may be in real love but could be exhibiting their everyday attitude or personality without any selfish motives. The clue is to dig the person’s past to see if he has a history of dating and dumping or in the case of a woman, dating and extorting. There are quite a few playboys who also turn out to be darlings and darlings who end up becoming players. I think it all boils down to how well you play your cards, ; since according to one of my philosopher cousin, love is a game. Good luck!