Do we sometimes put our dreams on hold to please other people?
Sometimes in life people put their dreams on hold to please other people. Take the high school star football player for instance, who accepts a full-athletic scholarship to play for Notre Dame to please his dad, when he really wants to go to acting school. Or the newly married wife who puts her dream career on hold to stay home and take care of the home and baby when it arrives, because that’s what her husband wants. Sometimes, we just hold off on going after our dreams due to the opinions of others.
Having a dream is commendable. Everyone ought to be able to dream big dreams and plan on achieving them. In fact, without dreams life can get to be somewhat monotonous. Doing the same thing day after day, month after month, and year after year can simply become boring. Using your passion and creativity to dream up exciting dreams is good for one’s overall well-being.
If this is true, then having a dream and not being able to go after that dream because you feel the need to please another person may stifle growth and cause negative emotions to arise. It’s like telling a child to hold in all of his excitement on Christmas morning when he sees all the marvelous gifts underneath the Christmas tree. The child, so excited, yet not able to express it, would most likely feel frustrated and perhaps angry because he wants to show his delight.
The fear of man is bondage. When people hold off on their dreams to please another person it imprisons them unless they can come to terms with the situation and fully accept putting their dreams off for some time. For example, let’s take a new employee at a small company, who wants to take his lunch break to go to the gym to get into shape, but instead stays in the break room to talk with his boss because that’s what his boss wants him to do. The man holds off on his dream of getting into shape due to the pressure from his boss.
It is important to be able to differentiate between whether a person is putting a dream on hold by one’s own decision, or because one feels pressured by another person. If there is the pressure to hold off on your dreams to please another, it is important to open the lines of communication between the two. That person needs to be made aware of the situation and honesty must go forth. People should not have to put their dreams on hold for others. Honesty, openness, and courage will be needed to effectively resolve the situation.
Tags: Dreams, Goals, Inspiration, Life, Self-Help