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Why Is He With Her?

Many people are guilty of looking at a relationship and if one of the people are not what we deem as attractive, rhetorically asking, “Ugh! Why is he even with her?” I am sure some men do this too but for the most part, you hear women say it, as if being “pretty” is the only reason someone could possibly BE with someone else. I have said it before but I know better than to REALLY believe this is the only reason a man could possibly love and marry a woman. Sometimes the most successful relationships are with people who aren’t beauty queens or stunning charmers. People who don’t spend ALL of their free time on “looking good” have time to work on other endearing, everlasting qualities like AND…their personalities.

When I have said it, I can honestly say I was joking because I know better. However, I am beginning to think that some women are dead ass serious when making this statement. It makes me a little concerned. I see all of these blogs, tweets, articles, etc. written about women having problems finding men. Could it be because your focus is on the wrong thing? If you are over 25 and looking to get into a serious relationship, whether you are male or female, your main concern should be how someone is going to treat you. I think it should be a big concern if you are under 25 but most people in that age bracket aren’t trying to settle down with one person so your relationship priorities tend to be different.

Seriously, if your biggest concern is “why is he with her? she’s fat/ugly/can’t dress/etc”, you might not need to be in a relationship at all. Could it be that he actually loves her? Isn’t that what’s most important? I hear and see so many people CLAIM they want a man/woman but what they are projecting doesn’t say that. It says “I want someone to show off to my family and friends”. As you mature, you find out that having a “trophy” for a relationship isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. That’s some high school shit.
If you’re an outsider looking in, there is a plethora of things you’ll never be privy to that makes those two people think the world of each other. I wish people would get that.

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Oh The Memories

Throughout primary school or high school you knew if someone liked you. One of the most simplest of relationships happen when you were in primary or high school. A lot of the time primary school isn’t counted I guess– but what I’m trying to say is that if a boy or girl liked you, you’d know about it. The thing about when you’re younger is that you don’t care as much because you know you’re only young and you know that it will be easily forgotten….eventually.

A note will either be passed around to you with two boxes saying either a yes or a no. “Will you go out with me” will be scrawled on the scrunched up bit of paper and the messenger would be trying to be stealthy about the whole note by trying not to smile and give away anything. But you knew what was on that note, but you pretended to be coy about it all. Once you circled/ticked the box that said yes, that’s it, you were in a “relationship” with that person. It was done. Love, back then was so damn simple.

Even in high school if you liked someone. The older you got the more upfront people became about it. However a lot of the time you had the upgraded version of the little love note from primary school and that was either via MSN chat or text. If you were lucky you got a phone call or you were asked to “go out” as in become someone’s boyfriend/girlfriend in person. But either way you never had any confusion as to whether you were official with someone.

I was having a discussion with one of my best friend’s and he was enjoying someone’s company and was confused as to where the relationship was heading. All of a sudden with what felt like out of nowhere, they’re official and when I asked him how it happened he said, “it kind of just happened”. See, the confusing thing about adult relationships (out in the big world) is that, it’s not as simple as it was when you were younger, a simple love note or a straight out asking someone to “go out with you”, you’re left playing the guessing game and wondering whether you’re an item or not.

Why can’t the simple principles from when we were younger transfer onto today’s relationships. It’s too exhausting to guess these days and what happens if someone assumes you’re together when you’re oblivious to it and you still go on dates with other people? You become the bad, confused person. Let’s go back to old school lovin’ and bring back the love notes, I say.

Will you go out with me?
Yes ( ) or No ( )

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